I must admit...I am amazed by the popularity of part I of this title on Hubpages. If you have not read Part I, click here. The comments I have received has reaffirmed the problem many women have in the relationship arena. Like I explained in my first article, if you are Christian (and especially African American), it may seem God has forgotten about you and your desire to have a happy and loving marriage. You are probably reminding God that He said it is not good for man to be alone. That's what I use to do, remind God exactly what he said. I just want to take some time and reiterate some points:
1. Don't have a relationship just to have a relationship. If you are really trying to trust God to send you a husband, you have to let go of any relationships that may be holding you back from receiving what God has for you. You can't receive a gift in your hands if your hands are already holding onto something else. You have to set what's in your hands down in order to pick your new gift up. Once you realize someone is not the one, let the relationship go immediately. If you're not interested, don't even go there! Time is a precious thing. If the relationship is not taking you to your ultimate goal, let it go. Sometimes God will use a relationship to prep us for the future. Use those relationships as a learning mechanism to help you in future relationships. Try not to make the same mistake twice. Be prayerful when making your choices.
2. Don't disrespect another woman's relationship or marriage. One thing that I have seen growing in popularity is women disrespecting other women's relationships. We tell ourselves "he don't have a ring on his finger", to justify that he's fair game. Ladies... do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who will respond to you while he's in another relationship? If he's doing it with you, he'll do it to you! Commitment is a quality you want yourself...don't disrespect someone else's commitment. If it is God's will for you two to get together, let God work it out in His time. You will appreciate it much more!
3. Do you! Use your alone time to work on you. Take that class...learn to cook...work in that ministry. Paul said ..."He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord" (1 Cor 7:32 ). If you are unmarried, your main priority should be how to please the Lord. God can use the unmarried mightily because they are free to worship and serve Him without the distraction of a spouse. Ask God to use you completely as you wait for Him to come through. Focus on God and not on your marital status.
In a world that caters to couples, being single definitely has its positives. You are free to enjoy life on your terms. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but don't blow off your time as a single. Enjoy your freedom while you have the time. Many married are more lonely than the unmarried because of unresolved personal issues. Take this time to develop your relationship with God, resolve issues and enjoy life.
God-Sent Husband Part III
Premarital Sex and its Spiritual Consequences
10 Wrong Reasons to Get Married, Part I
I would like you to spend some time writing about how a single woman, living holy can get her needs met. What I see so far is what Pastor's preach. What should be done, now how to do it. Emotional needs are very difficult to satisfy without another person. No one to "fill your bucket". The answer is always, God will fulfill your every need. But, He created a mate for Adam to fulfill that need. What to do in the meantime with that unfullfilled need?
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DeleteGood Comments. God created Eve to fill Adam's physical needs, not his spiritual needs. Our spiritual can only be fullfilled by God, not man. I believe when we allow God to complete us spiritually, he makes waiting for physical fullfillment bearable. This is becasuse we take our focus off of our lacking physical needs and focus on God. If you did not read Part I of this title on Hubpages, do so. It is my personal testimony on how I waited until my 50s before God provided my husband. I outline practical ways to wait.
ReplyDeleteI hope my suggestions will help you. Stay encouraged!
Thanks for leading me to your post, Karen. Excellent advice!
ReplyDeleteJanene: Thanks for stopping by!
ReplyDeleteHi Karen, I love the articles. When I came across it I felt better about the decisions that I made. Long story short, I need advice on this. I am a Christian woman, I just ended a 12 year relationship 9 months ago because I had to choose between God and him. "No more Shacking" I asked God to restore the relationship based on the fact that, He was good to me and the good outwayed the bad, yes there were issues, but what most importantly was missing was that he didn't have a relationship with God. and I felt that after 12 years of waiting patiently, what is he waiting on to get married, so I told him to leave. I broke up with him, he didin't leave me, but I want to be a wife, not a girlfriend for the rest of my life, but I did ask God to fix it. What's your adice on this situation?
ReplyDeletePlease forgive me if I sound harsh... Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers. How can two walk together unless they agree. Those are scriptures. The man of God that you want to marry will not take 12 years to decide whether to marry. Oftentimes we missionary date . This means we date someone thinking we are going to get them saved. When it doesnt happen, we wait and wait and pray and bargain. If he's not the one, let him go now. If you want to be a wife, don't settle, don't give the wife benefits out. Keep me posted. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteHi Karen, this is from my comment on feb 20th @7:19pm. Sorry I'm just getting back to you with a reply. Thank you for your wisdom and they were not harsh words. I am glad that you respond to the women who look at this blog the way you do. Keep us in your prayers and I will keep you posted because I am still praying about it and about what I want. I pray that youy and your husband stay blessed and I really do appreciate your reply. God bless you. stay tooned........
DeleteHi, I am happy to here about your story very encouraging. My question is I had dreams about a man being my husband for about 4 years . Do you think God would show me him? He is a fellow christians .The dreams are not sinful.
ReplyDeleteGod does use deams to show us things. I would always dream of my wedding but I would never see his face. The dreams were to keep my faith strong and know that God would eventually bring it to pass. Sometimes, our inner desires are the causes of our dreams. In your case, it could be either. But I do know this...God will not show you your husband without letting him know the plan too. Does he show interest?
ReplyDeleteKeep me posted. God bless you!
Wow IM a hunter chick with kids. Dominant woman. Never seen myself as single to focus on God due to having kids! Have to stop hunting!!! Ironically my sis said stop looking this morning you just explained it!
ReplyDeleteWOW!What a confirmation! Focus on God and raising your kids to be respectful, God-fearing, productive citizens and let God handle the rest. Thanks for stopping by!
ReplyDeleteAs a young woman who is 23 years old, I am glad that I came across this page....no actually proud that I came across this page. I am battling with myself on constantly having relationships. It has even gotten to the point that my worth became a price becauase I didn't want to be alone (no I am not a prositute...I just mean, I began overlooking my worth because of desperation to be in a relationship). However, my really great friends challenged me to be alone. They said...how will someone ever truly love you for you...if you don't love and worry about yourself. Thus, I am going strong being by myself. At times I cry because I long for another person..but what I've come to realize is that as long as you have faith, trust in the Lord to send you your husband, HE WILL! And that is the faith that I hold onto because I refuse to let the Devil win. In the end GOD wins, I win! And as a result I am working on the whole of me in all arenas (financial, personal, education, etc) Thanks for the article! It was an uplift!
ReplyDeleteAt 23, you still have time to realize your worth before your husband arrives. Work on you! God loves you! Thanks for stopping by.
ReplyDeleteDear Karen
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for your article, so encouraging. I'm 27 years old and ready to be in a serious relationship that will by God's grace and mercy, lead to marriage. My story is this, to be short and precise: I'm Christmas and have a strong personal relationship with God. I came out of over a 2 year relationship with a non-believer, who kept on telling me that he will convert but never did. That said, we decided to part and go our separate ways. The things is that he still tells me he loves me and have claimed to marry before, I don't know whether I still love him.....in fact, I don't but I am leading him on...I think. Because when he tell me he love me, I then reply that I love him too. The other day we spoke, I asked him what his looking into a woman and he said 'everything that I am' and he asked me the same question, what am I looking for in a man ' I told him Godly man who loves Jesus, by that knows true love' and his like, I will change ect. The thing is that if he were Christian....I were to consider perhaps taking him back. Everything that he is is so worldly. That said, it's been 2 years that we not together and I am single..within this period of time - I have known to seek The Lord diligently, trusting him and just loving him....he completes me in every single way, I love him to bit that no man can never take that away, I have opened my own company and running it due to his grace, I'm working on myself, I volunteer a charity once a week and countless other bless. We all need to remember that we need to SEEK THE KINGDOM OF GOD FIRST AND EVERYTHING WILL WE ADDED TO US. Let us not lean on our own understand. When I was with my ex....things were rocky, I never always turned to God, I swayed away because I was a dating a non-believer...who you date does place a big influence in who we become. My ex was too much attracted to my out beauty....hence, I was always self conscious just to make him happy, I became to have self esteem issue to which I never had...things just didn't work out. We were planning on getting married, but I thank God it didn't work out. Maybe it will work out in the future, but first God needs to save him and have a personal relationship with. I've realized that I stuck up with hm for so long because I thought he'd change....but tru change only comes from God. If's it's God's will for us to be together one in the future, so be in....but in the meantime, I'm trusting him for a Godly man that I can be a good wife to. Until then, I will praise him in the storm. Thank you for you story.
Do not settle. Wait for who God has in store for you. He will not send someone that doesn't meet his standards, and if he does, His plan will be to elevate him in time to meet his standards. This means he will be willing to become a Man of God....you will not have to beg him to do so. Stay Encouraged! Thanks for stopping by.
ReplyDeleteDear Karen
DeleteThank you very much for the reply and encouragement. Stay blessed.
Great article @ Barbara. In order to find God's will for our lives according to his word, God said we are to be ambassadors of Christ. God said a man that wins souls is wise. As we start out doing this God will direct your path for his will in your life.
DeleteExcellent point. We are all evangelists because God say Go ye therefore preaching and teaching everything that he taught us. We need to expand outside the church walls.
DeleteThanks Karen! And I am definitely doing so! Other than working on myself, do you have any advice for young women 20-25years trying to date and/or be in the dating game the right way? At this moment in time, I just gave up...and said to heck with it. It's exhausting trying to play God and match make myself with somebody. Right now, as I stated before I just want to work on me. But should things in my life work itself out and I do have the chance to date...any advice that you can offer my friends and I? Thanks soo much!
ReplyDeleteMy advice is to focus on building friendships. Go into each opportunity looking to start a friendship. Many relationships jump right to the romantic phase and have no sound foundation. Friendships are the foundation of a good long-term, loving relationship. Don't you want your spouse to also be your best friend? Relationships should be built and not thrown together. Without a solid foundation, it will fall like any building. Therefore, just build friendships...if it does't go any further, then so be it- you have a friend. Thanks for stopping by!
ReplyDeleteHi Karen, This article is a nice addition to the other one, including comments. What is your advice on getting rid of the longing to be with someone who you have identified as not being the right type of man for you? From a previous relationship perspective.
ReplyDeleteHi Barbara: My advice is prayer and work. Prayer will let God know that you are in agreement that he is not the one. Ask God to remove the longing for the ex and replace it with a longing for him. Work in the Kingdom, have fun with friends and enjoy life and before you know he is just a memory. It's hard but with God all things are possible. Keep in touch and thanks for stopping by.
DeleteHi Karen, your advice has helped me so much it has only confirmed the process I had already began by praying and seeking God.What is your advice on discovering God's will for your life? or On how to act on His will for your life? If possible could you do an article on it for a further analysis.
DeleteHi Barbara:
DeleteSo glad to hear you are moving on with God. My advice is to first find out what your spriritual gift is. Everyone in the Body of Christ has a spiritual gift. The gift is to be used for the upbuilding of God's kingdom. I believe that our assignment from God is tied to the spiritual gift that He has given us. If you don't know what your gift is, it's hard to know what your assignment is. Therefore the first step is to KNOW what your gift is. Find a spiritual gift assessment and take it prayerfully--don't force answers so that it is line with what you think... be sure it is of God. Then once it's confirmed, seek God and he will direct you to your assignment. Thank you for the article suggestion. I will work on it. It is a good suggestion. Also, I'm writing an e-book which will dive into all of this in more detail. The book may take some time, but the article may come sooner than later. Keep in touch Barbara!
Hi Karen, I read both of your articles and I must say that they are truly uplifting and encouraging. The desire to be married has been placed on my heart within the last two years, prior to that, I honestly lacked the desire. I found myself entering relationships that I was able to control, to avoid getting hurt or becoming too involved. A lot of them were below my standards, but I continued them, just for the sake of having someone.
ReplyDeleteI ended a 4 year relationship, about 10 months ago and I have been single, since. The guy I was with was a Christian and he helped me grow closer to God, but selfishness and other issues, on my part caused us to split temporarily. We tried to work things out, but emotional damage appeared to have been done and he began to turn from God and was filled with unforgiveness. Since our split, I have strengthen my relationship with God, I participate in various things at church and I have been preparing myself, mentally, physically, financially, emotionally and spiritually for marriage. I have also, worked out my past emotional issues, which caused a lot of my anger and I am learning to submit to God and allow Him to lead my life, but it is hard being alone. I even pray for my husband, as you suggested. I feel like I am doing everything to prepare, yet it seems so far away. I try to remain faithful, but I do have my sad days. As time goes on I am able to let go, more and more, each day, but the desire to be with my ex, still exists. I pray for God's will and I ask Him to remove the desire (or any other selfish desires), if it is not in His will, and it is still present. I am determined to remain celibate, until marriage, but there seems to be no sign of a spouse... Any suggestions?
I don't think God fully removes the desire just because we ask him to...that would be too easy. One of the fruit of the spirit is self control... He wants to cultivate that fruit in us. So instead of asking him to remove the desire, ask him to increase your self control in order to ignore it. God wants us to grow spiritually so therefore we need to start denying the flesh. Ask God to help you in that area. Keep me posted. Thanks for stopping by.
ReplyDeleteThis is a follow up to my Reply a few minutes ago, May 19, at 1:06 p.m. I don't seem to be on the same page as some of you ladies. I believe God wants me to have every need (and those needs are from Him - He created me,) supplied by Him. If He is my Husband for the protection and financial aspects, why can't He be my Husband for the sexual needs I have? I am not young, however, I have been married and I love sex. God gave that desire to me. He did not remove the desire at the moment the Enemy removed my marriage. I believe God does not want us to starve for food, protection, shelter, nor sexual fulfillment. I believe He wants to provide all of it for us. I'm new on this site today and expect possibly I'll be thrown off because my views seem to differ from what I'm reading on here, however, I do believe there are ladies writing in who are seriously seeking answers, regarding their sexual needs, to be more practical than "self control" and "wait."
DeleteThanks for your reply and your viewpoint. You are correct, God did create sex and give us the desire. But he wants sex fullfilled within marriage. The Bible said the marriage bed is undefilied. But it also says Flee fornication. The Bble doesn't contradict itself. Sometime we miscontrue the Bible to justify what we want. Sex was made for marriage only. Please read my artical entitled The consequences of premarital sex.
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Also, as one of the fruit of the spirit, every believer is given self control. When nourished, self control is a practical solution. The Word of God is our practical solution in all things Study it to find practical solutions to all situations in life.
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I agree with the verses including the phrases, 1. "flee fornication" and 2. "the marriage bed is undefiled." It appears to come down to definitions.
Delete1. How do you define "fornication" and what is your source? My understanding is fornication is sexual intercourse between unmarried people in comparison to adultery, being sexual intercourse between people, at least one of whom is married however, not to each other.
2. How do you define "The marriage bed is undefiled" and what is your source? My understanding, given to me as a bride in marriage counseling by our pastor is that sex in marriage is for the two only, no others, no animals, no porn, not dangerous, yet is consensual and enjoyable, may be included behind those closed doors. In other words, if we participate without the compelling knowledge that it is inherently evil and are well aware that God is looking at what we are doing from up in Heaven, then we're on safe ground.
I do not see either of these Scriptures inapposite of what I offered earlier. Thanx
I agree with both your definitions. I had someone write me and tell me that she her highest form of praise was when she used a vibrator and praised God during her orgasim. I did not publish her comments as I am in disagreement. Is this your belief?
DeleteMine is the post you deleted. I said that I felt it was worship and sacrifice to Him because I was saving myself for Him, until/unless the Lord sends me a human man to fulfill this need.
DeleteI believe first we need to decipher your beliefs regarding self stimulation. I am aware of the old Catholic Church's view, used (as with most of their teaching,) to teach children Do and Don't without teaching them to search Scripture and how to develop a personal relationship with Jesus Christ wherein they have a close walk and hear the Holy Spirit's guidance.
As far as I see it, this is a private communication with God. You say you are in disagreement, however, I do not yet hear your reasons. Please show me how Scripture teaches against reaching orgasm under such circumstances. I was very definite in stating that it was to be totally focused on God, that no fantasy should be allowed in, that it was ONLY between God and me.
I ask your indulgence in discussing this topic. I am an attorney and, therefore, have developed a very analytical thinking style. I also have the gift of Prophecy and so I tend to see things in terms of Black and White. I recognize that leaning to one's own understanding is a short road to folly, however, I have yet to be shown that my position is against Scripture. That is why I ask you to support your disagreement.
Thank you.
Ah so you are the culprit. I can tell you have an analytical mind by your writing. I cannot show you a scripture that contradicts your belief. To my knowledge, there is no scripture that says that it is ok to masturbate while thinking of God. If the lack of such scripture is justification for you, then so be it. When God created Adam & Eve, he also created sex. Sex was to be enjoyed between the two of them- between a husband and wife. Anything outside of that, in my opinion, is against God's plan and law. This is just my belief--there is no scripture to support it. Fornication, adultery, masturbation all included---in my belief. The Bible says to work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. If you think your actions please God and glorifies him, that is your choice.
DeleteJust remember that one day we have to give an account of every word, though and deed we have done to our bodies. There is other ways to glorify and praise God...are you sure your praise is a sweet smelling savor in His nostrils. You must one day give account. I would rather you just do it with imaginations of men instead of using the perfect, Holy One, as a source for persoanl fullfilment. Thanks for your honesty!
DeleteDear Karen
ReplyDeleteFrom the age of 21 I was called back to Church, I had a real encounter with God, but as I didn't get any strong teaching I probably was a Christian in name only. However, being old fashioned in a romantic way I had few boyfriends and for short periods of time as I would not sleep with them. I became a born again Christian about 15 years ago. I am 43 this year. Have remained a virgin but in all this time I haven't so much as been on a date with a man. I have had to marriage proposals from men in my Church, which became cult like, "because God told them I was there wife", he didn't tell me. I am following all your advice of part one but I am struggling as I dearly want to have a husband to love and hopefully a baby. People understand if you are married and can't have a child but not when you are single. I am called second Mummy by a friend as she is on her own and I have supported her and her twin boys from day dot (incidentally I prayed for twins as I thought I'd be so old by the time I have a baby so in some ways feel blessed that I got them in a different way) but it doesn't stop the tears of yearning for a husband and if and blessed a baby. Everyone that ever gets prayed for in a group gets married. Everyone I went to college or school with gets married.
I use every opportunity to share God's love and do his will but I feel the one blessing I have asked for never gets answered. I've tried internet dating but I haven't even managed to get a pen pal - I am just not attracted to the men who write to me and the ones I am don't write back so it makes me feel even more insecure.
Any words of wisdom? I am not an Afro Caribbean woman btw.
You remind me of myself in so many ways. My words of wisdom is to stay on the course and keep your eyes on the prize. It is very difficult watching everyone marry as you get older and older and then the desire of having of child can be overbearing. I never had a child of my own but married into 3 daughters and 2 grandsons. I tell everyone I did it the easy way. I can truly say that God has satisfied my yearning motherhood and I am at peace at not being a natural mother. I too, have nieces, nephews, godkids and church kids that I have mentored and loved as my own. I do believe when it is not God's will to either marry or have children, that at some point he will make it well with our souls and we are at peace. But you have to be in tuned to His desires. Keep your hand in God's hand and in due time, he will show up one way or another. Keep in touch...thanks for stopping by.
ReplyDeleteHello Karen,
ReplyDeleteI decided to let go of a long unstable off and on relationship of 14 years. That was mentally and physically abusive. It took lot of praying and staying busy to remove myself from that situation. Out of no where this guy who is a man of god came into my life. He lives a few states away and was in town due to his job. He seemed nice and began to call me. We went out and had dInner before he left town. He shared with me last night that god showed him that I was his wife and gave him confirmation as well. I have only known him for a short period of time. But he is ready to move me and my children to where he resides and marry me. How is this possible? I'm a little confused on what to do. Do I continue to pray until I receive the same vision and confirmation?
You definitely continue to pray for God's guidance. He seems to be moving quickly which could be a red flag. If he is truly God sent, ask him to slow down so your relationship can develop and ask God to confirm if he is the one. Take your time, if he is the one, he will wait for you! Keep me posted and thanks for stopping by.
ReplyDeleteDear Karen,
ReplyDeleteAt the end of last year, i became a widow after being a wife to a Christian man for 30 years.My husband was a great guy. He is now in Heaven with the Lord. W e buried him " with honor" and i am still getting condolences after Dec.2012. I loved him and miss him. But GOD is good. My husband used to tell me that after he died i would get married again but this always mystified me......until he past on.
Now i do want to re-marry some day. It is too soon,now, of course. i am not young now- and 10 years older than when you got married. i admire you. we are in this world and are just passing through, of course.
we are the Lord's.
Thanks for all you wrote. Lord continue to bless you and your family!
Absent with from the body means presence with the Lord. May God continue to give you peace during this tough time. In His time, he will send another....of course he will never replace your husband of 30 years but will provide companionship and a different kind of precious love you will need. Thank you so much for stopping by!
ReplyDeleteMay God continue to bless this union. I really needed to hear your story. I am 36, single, no kids but always prayed for a husband and kids. I do not want to have children until i am married nor will i settle. Thank you for sharing your story it has inspired me to continue having faith that my time will come.
ReplyDeleteRochelle: Keep holding on and trusting God. Don't let the enemy trick you into something that is not God-ordained. Keep in touch and thank you so much for stopping by.
ReplyDeleteWhat about our biological clock? Some of us have a desire to have children but do not want to have them out of wedlock or after a certain age.
ReplyDeleteUnderstood. That was me. Unfortunately I never had children of my own but have 3 daughters by marriage and two grandsons. Although I always desired children, I am at peace with it. The peace only comes from God. God knows the desires of your heart and if biological children is not in His plans for you, I believe, one day you will have the peace like I have. Be encouraged. Thanks for stopping by.
DeleteHi Karen. May God continue to bless your marriage. I am 35 years old, a christian, single and still clean. This is because I have not been in any relationship from for a day though some men propose but i found my self saying no easily or walking away even before introduction maybe because they are either from different tribe or religion. At times, after walking away, i had second thought but too late to amend. There is this guy in my work place who continue to pest but any time he comes around i found my self drawing back. Pls advise me. This same story happen in my dreams too but i couldn't see the guy's face
ReplyDeleteYou are going to have to at least test the water with some of thse men. By this I mean just start friendships and see where it go. Relationships are built---they are not instant. Take things slow, br prayerful and let God lead you. Thanks for stopping by
DeleteHi Karen,
ReplyDeleteI originally posted on March 11, 2013 at 4:07 PM. I took your advice and began to ask for self-control and I continue to have the same desire. I have even asked God to show me if what I desire is of the flesh/selfish and the desire appears to have gotten stronger, as well as the opposition and attacks from the enemy. Since my relationship ended, a year ago, I have had no male companionship, and the two men who have approached me, were in relationships. It has become very discouraging and I feel like time is just passing me by and my breakthrough seems SO far away! I seek to find comfort and encouragement through reading my bible, attending and being active in church and reading the stories of others who have received their hearts desire, like yourself. Some days I want to give up and go back out in the "world," but I don't want to disappoint God or hinder my walk with Him... Thanks for your help!
Don't go back out into the world! It is a struggle. Your desires are not going to go away...and when you think about it, you don't want it to go away. You just have to learn to give the burden to God and let him carry it for you. You don't want him to take it from you, you want Him to help you deal with it in a way that pleases him. Sounds like you're doing the right things. Keep your eye of the Prize! God will come through.....wait on Him. Please stay in touch!
DeleteWow! Finally someone speaking truth! Thank you Karen!!
ReplyDeleteWhat do youhave to say for those who are separated but are trusting God and waiting for their husbands to come back home but they don't want to reconcile?
The Word says " To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband, But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife."
There are some circumtances in which God alllows us to divorce. What is the reason for your separation? If God ordained your marriage, no man shall put asunder. I need to hear more of your situation. Thanks for stopping by.
DeleteHi Karen..I am encourage by all your article..It is from God. I am blessed really. I am a committed single christian mother and leader of a ministry in our church. I am on my 50's and still waiting for my Boaz. what you have written is what i want for a husband. I want someone who have a heart for God's work esp. in the Praise &Worship Ministry..where we can sing together as we grow old. But i have a secret, is it okay..I gave God a deadline till 2014...Please pray with me to have more Faith &how I will respond if the answer is no. I have been a single mother since 1992. My daughter is grown up now and a professional. I have 1 or 2 relationships but i know God is not pleased so I abandon it and just concentrate on God's ministry & raising my daughter. Next year is 2014 &I am excited for my Boaz.Please pray for me for this coming year..Thanks for your help..God bless you more &your ministry..
ReplyDeleteGod answers prayer three ways....yes, no and wait! Your answer may be wait until after 2014! We should not try to pull deadlines and demands on God and trust that his perfect will for us is what is best. I applaud your service. Keep your eyes on God and pray...let your will be my will! Keep in touch and thanks for stopping by.
DeleteHi Karen, thank you for your article. I am deeply encouraged. I am currently facing a situation which I couldn't discern it myself and couldn't find out the answer. I met this guy in my church a few months ago. Things were very normal at first as I did not have a good impression on him until he began to be caring for me. He started offering himself to ride me home, then when I had problems, he did care about me. He did ask me out for meals 2 times. I really do not know what his intentions are because my friends in church told me he is the type of friendly and outgoing guy, thus it might have been out of caring for a sister in Christ that he helped me, and out of being friendly that he asked me out for meals. I found that at times when I saw him being too close with other sister, I will feel jealous, which I started to realize problems had arise. There was one time, that I almost had a quarrel with him because of him being too close with certain sisters. I began to realize my problem, thus I told God about it and started guarding my heart. From time to time, I also began to realize that he is actually a very simple person, and no matter what he does, he does not give a second thought about it. Sometimes, what he does to care for sisters in church also seems to be over the boundary. So, it means that what he had done in caring for me,it's just something that he did out of responsibility. I keep guessing and analyzing, which makes me very confuse. I rather he had rejected me straight on the face than putting me in this situation now to keep guessing and waiting. I always ask myself and ask God, should I just close this door or keep waiting? I had asked God in prayer that if he is not the one, I would rather being rejected. Today, he had already back to his hometown as he had graduated from university. I do not know whether this is a 'No' answer from God or not.
ReplyDeleteI would ask him what his feelings and intentions are with you. If he has interest, great...if he doesn't move on. We shouldn't walk around not knowing what is going on. Communicate with him. Let me know how it works. Thanks for stopping by.
DeleteHi Karen! Wow! Your article is so to the point and so true. Thank you so much for sharing it with us.
ReplyDeleteI'm seeking some guidance/advice and a lot of prayers!
Several months ago, I met a wonderful Christian guy online and we have been talking almost every day, several hours a day. We live in different countries and in about a month, I will be traveling to Europe where we plan to meet up.
He has all of the qualities that I've dreamed in having in a husband and we get along really great. We have the same family values and interests in life.
The only red flag that I have is that we were brought up in different religious backgrounds; me - Pentecostal and he is Seventh Day Adventist. When it comes to our beliefs, there are many things we disagree on. We've talked some about what we believe but I have a feeling that he wants me to make all of the changes and that he is not going to compromise.
I've taken the time to go and visit a local Seventh Day Adventist church to see what it is all about but when I suggested that he visits a Pentecostal church, he brushed it off and said he will do it when I come over.
I'm 31 years old and I don't want to miss my chance in love and family. I've fallen in love with him and I know he loves me. But at the same time, I'm just worried that our religious differences could destroy both of our lives. Should I really be concerned about this if he is a Godly man or am I just worried about nothing? Help!
The Bible says: How can two walk together unless they agree.....another scripture says Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers. Be equally yoked also includes more than just unbelievers. When two people with different religious beliefs marry, it can cause major problems.. How do you decide which religion to rear your children. What about holidays and other Christian celebrations. The red flag you see is just that...don't ignore it! In addition, why are you traveling first to meet him on his turf. In my opinion, he should travel to meet you for your first meeting. Please be discerning a very careful. In the beginning stages of relationships, we say and do those things we believe the other wants to hear. We oftentimes don't really show our real self because we want to make a good mpression.
ReplyDeleteI believe God can use any method he chooses to introduce two people. I have used internet dating in the past. But with Internet dating, you have to be extremely careful. Please stay in touch. Thanks for stopping by.
DeleteThank you for your advice. I'm actually traveling to a different country for missionary work and he is going to come and meet me there, so I'm not meeting him on his turf. I'm taking my brother with me so that I won't be alone. I will pray and talk to him more about our religious differences and see what comes about.
DeleteI'm also going to take your advice and not chase after him. I've been feeling that I'm the one that is always calling him or writing to him first. Thank you so much for your help! :)