I must admit...I am amazed by the popularity of part I of this title on Hubpages. If you have not read Part I, click here. The comments I have received has reaffirmed the problem many women have in the relationship arena. Like I explained in my first article, if you are Christian (and especially African American), it may seem God has forgotten about you and your desire to have a happy and loving marriage. You are probably reminding God that He said it is not good for man to be alone. That's what I use to do, remind God exactly what he said. I just want to take some time and reiterate some points:
1. Don't have a relationship just to have a relationship. If you are really trying to trust God to send you a husband, you have to let go of any relationships that may be holding you back from receiving what God has for you. You can't receive a gift in your hands if your hands are already holding onto something else. You have to set what's in your hands down in order to pick your new gift up. Once you realize someone is not the one, let the relationship go immediately. If you're not interested, don't even go there! Time is a precious thing. If the relationship is not taking you to your ultimate goal, let it go. Sometimes God will use a relationship to prep us for the future. Use those relationships as a learning mechanism to help you in future relationships. Try not to make the same mistake twice. Be prayerful when making your choices.
2. Don't disrespect another woman's relationship or marriage. One thing that I have seen growing in popularity is women disrespecting other women's relationships. We tell ourselves "he don't have a ring on his finger", to justify that he's fair game. Ladies... do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who will respond to you while he's in another relationship? If he's doing it with you, he'll do it to you! Commitment is a quality you want yourself...don't disrespect someone else's commitment. If it is God's will for you two to get together, let God work it out in His time. You will appreciate it much more!
3. Do you! Use your alone time to work on you. Take that class...learn to cook...work in that ministry. Paul said ..."He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord" (1 Cor 7:32 ). If you are unmarried, your main priority should be how to please the Lord. God can use the unmarried mightily because they are free to worship and serve Him without the distraction of a spouse. Ask God to use you completely as you wait for Him to come through. Focus on God and not on your marital status.
In a world that caters to couples, being single definitely has its positives. You are free to enjoy life on your terms. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but don't blow off your time as a single. Enjoy your freedom while you have the time. Many married are more lonely than the unmarried because of unresolved personal issues. Take this time to develop your relationship with God, resolve issues and enjoy life.
God-Sent Husband Part III
Premarital Sex and its Spiritual Consequences
10 Wrong Reasons to Get Married, Part I