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Wednesday, February 18, 2015

For Single Ladies Only: The Script Called Life

Do you know that God has written a script for you?  It is called "Life".  No two scripts are the same.  Each has its own set of twists and turns, successes and failures, excitement and disappointments.

Your "Life" was created by God and He placed you in the leading role. Don't you know that God knows the plot, every twist, every turn and He wrote the end of the story! Every story God writes has a great ending--if we play the role correctly.  We can't ad lib our lines....we can't change the script...if we do, the ending of the story may change and our lives will take a different turn than the one intended by God. 

Are you trying to change your script?  Have you taken over God's directing role?  Don't do it!  God's story is much better than anything you can write--that is if you stay in His will.  Don't force relationships that aren't meant to be.  Don't just be with someone to be with someone.  Let God select the person to play that supporting role. Let Him select the rest of the supporting cast in your life.  His directing will win a best picture award and you will win the Best Acting Award in a Leading role!  Rise up to receive your award!

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

For Single Ladies Only: Will You Be HIS Valentine?

Do you have the Valentine's Day blues? Been there, done that. I have spent many a Valentine’s Day alone. And I’ll just say it, it’s hard! While the majority of the world is celebrating love, you’re at home trying to find something to watch on TV. Or better yet, you hang out with a bunch of other lonely women and all of you cry the blues. What can you do to overcome the Valentine Blues?

Make a Date with God for a Beautiful Valentine's Evening

Take the Focus off of You. Make someone else’s day. Find a newly widowed person or elderly person and make the day about them. Doing something for someone else helps keep you focused on what is really important in life. Your acts of kindness will be appreciated. You will feel joy for helping someone else and then you will also realize that your life is not all bad.

Ask God to be your Valentine. Make a date with God and spend the time praising and worshiping Him. He is the ultimate lover- He loves your soul. Go all out- light candles, play worship music, get into His word and feel His Presence. He will make your Valentine’s evening the best yet.
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I’m thankful that my days alone on Valentine’s Day are over. God has provided a husband who spoils me rotten on this day. It took a long time to get here. My advice is to be patient, don’t settle and allow God to send you your God-sent husband, just as He sent mine. It will be worth the wait.

Make up your mind that you will NOT be lonely on Valentine's Day.You are loved. Will you be HIS valentine?

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Monday, January 5, 2015

Be Your Best You in 2015!

Happy New Year!

It's a new dawn, a new day!  A new chance to get it right or at least do better than last year! 
I'm excited about the newness and am expecting great things.  It's been a challenging, fun and beautiful holiday season but now it's time to refocus.  What are you expecting this year?  What are you planning to do better this year?  What changes will you make in your life?  Is God in your picture?  To all my Christian Single ladies:  Do you!  Don't settle!  Don't disrespect other women's relationships! Don't give up!  Your season is nigh!  Hang in there!  Trust God!  Let Him bless you!  His blessings are what's best for you!

Let's leave 2014 in the past and press forward to great things.  There is greatness in you!  Show it- reach for it- it's yours!  And remember:

Always be the woman a man needs, not the woman who needs a man!

Be your best you in 2015!

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

It's The Holidays and You're All Alone!

One of the many challenges of being single is dealing with loneliness during the holidays. I've been there....couples everywhere....parties to attend alone....dealing with family pressure, etc, etc, and BA HUMBUG!

Being single and alone can zap the holiday spirit and turn your focus off the true meaning of Thanksgiving and Christmas. One year I was so not into Christmas that I didn't put up a tree nor buy presents. I realize that some people generally don't, but I usually love the festivities of Christmas. The next year my girlfriend encouraged me to celebrate. She went with me to buy a new tree and helped me decorate it. We had such a good time that the following year I invited her family over for Christmas Eve. We exchanged presents, had a good meal and so much fun. That year turned out to be the first year of an over 25-year Christmas Eve tradition. The tradition expanded to include my family and some close friends and now Christmas Eve at my house is the standard. Adding a husband to the mix now makes it even more special.

My advice to singles is to put the focus back on the true meaning of Thanksgiving and Christmas..being thankful and Jesus Christ. Don't focus on your marital status...focus on giving of yourself just like Christ gave to us!

Here are some tips:
  • Help serve Thanksgiving meals to the homeless or support some community event for the less fortunate.
  • Create your own Holiday tradition with family and friends.
  • Prepare a holiday meal for a needy family.
  • Attend a watch night service at your church or communtiy church on New Year's Eve as opposed to partying. Doing so can help you focus on the New Year and steps to create a better You!
Don't let this holiday season zap your spirit because you are single. Use your singleness to encourage someone else this holiday season.'s not about you!

Making Your Own Holiday Traditions

Monday, November 10, 2014

Making Your Own Holiday Traditions

The winter holiday season is upon us and it is a time when simple pleasures often mean the most. Sitting by a warm fire with cousins on a cold night. Opening a homemade gift from a child. Savoring the aroma of a delicious holiday bread baking in the oven. Reading a heartfelt, handwritten message from someone you love. Gathering several generations of your family together to sing a holiday song that has special meaning for all of you. These and other simple pleasures can bring you close as a family.

Identifying What Gives Your Life Meaning

Enjoying simple pleasures begins with knowing your values, or what's most important to you and your family. Everyone in your household may have a different idea about this, so it's worth taking time to sit down together and talk about the things that you find most worthwhile. As you explore simple ways to celebrate the holidays, get as many ideas as you can from your family. They'll be more likely to enjoy the simple traditions you come up with together if everyone is involved in the conversation.

Things To Do Together

The holiday season abounds with simple pleasures that everyone in your family can enjoy. Most communities offer festive activities that cost little or nothing, and you can find others in the beauty of the natural world -- the winter sky, the evergreens in a local park, the first frost on a windowpane.
  • Take a winter nature walk in your neighborhood. Notice which animals are out and about, which ponds have frozen over, and how many different types of evergreen trees you can spot. The National Audubon Society has chapters in many states and has ideas on outdoor activities to do together as a family.
  • Go star-gazing. Make the most of a crisp, clear winter night by looking at constellations, the patterns of stars in the sky. Search for "Star Attractions" on the National Geographic website .
Organize a winter sports outing. Depending on the weather, you might go sledding, ice-skating, or hiking along a trail in a community park.
  • Bake a holiday bread or cookies. Make it a family project, with one person choosing the recipe, another shopping for ingredients, and everyone chopping fruit or nuts together. Make an extra loaf or batch to take to an older neighbor or family that could use extra cheer this year.
  • Invite relatives to join you for a potluck holiday brunch or buffet instead of a formal sit-down meal. Serve punch; hot mulled cider; or coffee, tea, and hot chocolate instead of more expensive drinks. Just remember that if you've had relatives over for a sit-down meal in the past, they may expect this again. It's thoughtful to let them know well in advance that you plan to do things differently this year.
  • Sing songs of the season. Invite relatives and friends to join you in a holiday sing-along and to bring any instruments that they play. Search online for free or low-cost holiday song apps for your computer or smartphone if you need the words, music, or ideas on what to sing. Or take part as a family in a similar event at a house of worship or community center.
  • Share holiday memories in a cozy setting. Gather around a fireplace. Linger over a candlelit holiday meal. Pile into a big bed in your pajamas or bathrobes on a holiday morning. The warm setting will help to inspire warm memories that everybody can enjoy.
  • Read a holiday story together. Ask a children's librarian for suggestions that might interest your child or teenager. Or try a picture book like Chris Van Allsburg's The Polar Express (Houghton Mifflin, 2009), Eric A. Kimmel's Hershel and the Hanukkah Goblins (Holiday House, 1994), or Karen Katz's My First Ramadan (Holt, 2007) or My First Chinese New Year (Holt, 2012).
  • Go to a free holiday concert, recital, or pageant. Check the calendar of events in your local newspaper or on its website to learn about the options. Talk with your family about these and try the one that sounds most interesting to all of you.
  • Take part in a toy, food, or clothing drive. During the holidays, many communities have drives to collect toys, food, or warm clothes for families that need them. Call the mayor's office to find out which organizations sponsor these collection drives in your area.
  • Call an animal shelter and find out what pets need at holiday times. If you or your children love animals, your family might like to help abandoned pets at holiday times. Call a local shelter and find out if you could volunteer for a few hours or if the shelter would appreciate gifts of food, chew toys, or similar items.
  • Reach out to help others. Ask each family member to research a charity or an aid organization of their choice, dedicated to helping others, and then present their idea at a family dinner or meeting. Listen to each other's ideas, and vote to decide on which philanthropy to help and the amount of your donation.
By enjoying simple pleasures, you'll be sending the message that what's most important at holiday times is being together as a family -- not spending money on costly activities or gifts. This will bring you closer as a family and remind you that, whether your budget is large or small, you will always have many wonderful ways to enjoy each other's company during the holidays.

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